If you go to the link containing the news story, you will find a link that says "survey," that allows you to vote whether or not you think that spanking should be banned from Massachusetts. Whenever I voted, the votes where 3408 against the ban and only 177 for the ban. That a ratio of 95% compared to just 5%! Needless to say, I was pleasantly surprised, and hopefully it reveals that there are still some parents out there who still have some sense in them. And besides, I think it's obvious that time-outs aren't working!
This whole debate is ample evidence that we are raising a bunch of wimps that will not be ready for the real world.
Comedian Brad Stine makes a good point whenever it comes to this issue. he debunks the idea that by spanking, we are teaching our kids to hit. Such an argument can be made for criminals. By putting criminals in jail, aren't we teaching them to hold people against their will? I'm just trying to be consistent. If we ban spanking, maybe we should ban all forms of punishment, including jails!
Here is a blog I wrote several months ago giving some of the Biblical, philosophical, and other reasons why spanking should be allowed, and why government should stay out of our business.
I don't know how many times when I was young that after I got a spanking for something I did, I would tell myself, "When I have kids, I'm never spanking them." Well, now that I'm married, and every time my wife and I are around family and friends and they ask us about having children, I have began to think more seriously think about the issue. I must say, it took me about a 1/2 second to come to my conclusion: I will spank my kids with or without the governments permission.
Well, there is a new bill in the California legislation that attempts to ban parents from spanking their children under the age of four. The bill was brought up by Assemblywoman Sally Lieber, Democrat. If the bill becomes law it would be the first law passed on the issue. Nowhere, in federal, state, or local law, in the nation is there a law that prohibits the act of spanking against children.
We all knew that this day was coming, and we can expect more bills in the future to be proposed, and maybe even passed, by other states. Modern psychology and child rearing has attempted to tell us that spanking only damages the child instead of teaching it responsibility, character, integrity, etc. Well, here's my problem with this bill and why I support spanking:
First, it is a theological issue. This is the main reason why I say that I am going to spank my kids with or without the governments permission. The Bible is very clear that a child must be spanked by the parents when it disobeys. The majority of the verses used are from the book of Proverbs:
Proverbs 13:24: "Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him."
Proverbs 19:18: "Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not see your heart on putting him to death."
Proverbs 22:15: "Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far form him."
Proverbs 29:15: "The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother."
Hebrews 12:7, 11: "It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?...For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it."
It is clear then that godly parenting involves spanking and appropriate discipline. The Bible knows nothing of time out or anything like that (not that other methods are wrong). It is clear that the Bible sees spanking as a very important part of raising a child. It must be noted however, the Bible does not suggest beating a child or abusing a child, but appropriate spanking it does support.
I want to ask you, do time-outs really help? I remember when I was a child, time-outs didn't really work on me. I have always considered time-out as an opportunity to rest and get my energy back so that I could go for another round. Now I'm not saying that it never works or that it shouldn't be practiced, but I am asking if it really helps? I don't think it does, and I'm not for sure that there is any credible evidence to support it.
We will oftentimes tell a kid to go take a time-out and think about what they did and why it is wrong. Do you really think that the child is doing that? Usually, their mad that they can't keep going and vow that after their time-out is over, they'll just go at it again.
However, if you spank a child, I know for a fact that the stinging sensation on their backside will get them thinking about what they did and why it's wrong. Though the child may get madder and pout more, it teaches them obedience and submission much better than pleading with them to listen and think about it.
Spanking to me just logically makes sense. I remember not doing things because I knew I would get a spanking. I remember trying to be my best at school, church, etc., because I feared getting a spanking. I did not fear my parents as if they were abusing me, I feared the consequences of my actions. That is godly parenting, and that is exactly the reaction parents should expect whenever they use corporal punishment.
Think about the rowdy, annoying kids you meet in public. You know, the ones that whine and throw a fit whenever their parents don't give them what they want, or want to go home, or whatever. What do you hear the parents say most often? "Wait 'til we get home, your going to take a timeout Mr," or "I want you to sit there and think about what you just did." Now honestly, does that teach the kid anything? I don't think so. But if the child knows that their actions and whining will lead to a spanking, they are more apt to obey and suck it up.
BIG GOVERNMENT IS ALWAYS A PROBLEM
Here is another question I have: How is the government going to enforce this bill if it gets passed into law? Some suggest that parents who spank their children should go to jail for up to a year. Does spanking deserve such a punishment? Should disciplining a child be a crime?
Think about it, are we going to have police monitoring our homes when we punish our children, or watch how we react to our children whenever they are being rude, disobedient, or whining in public? To enforce such a law would cost too much money and waste our time and the governments time. How about passing laws and giving suggestions that actually solves problems like crime, social security, etc. Why waste our time with this?
Anytime the government does something that makes it bigger only creates problems. We can see this in the economy, in society, etc. Whenever the government gets bigger, our freedoms gets smaller. In this situation, the government is essentially telling us that they can raise our children better, and so they must hold our hand while we raise our kids. In fact, some have suggested that first time offenders (give me a break) shouldn't get jail time, but should take a parenting class. You know, where the stuck up elites who are so far out there that they have lost their grasp with reality and treat Freud as a god. They are going to be the ones teaching the classes, not people living in reality.
Are we so worried about the children that we demonize parents? Now, I do not think that we despise parents, but at the same time, we are so engrossed with the innocent children that we almost assume that they never do anything that is deserving of discipline. And thus, we look down on corporal punishment because "innocent" children shouldn't be harmed, we say.
Have such laws and ordinances worked in the past. Well, let's look at one for example: schools. We took prayer and spanking out of schools, and many liberals and Freud lovers thought that this would end much of our problems in society. But has it? Has putting an end to spanking at schools solved our problems or created more? Obviously the latter.
The truth is, since students know that, by law, the teacher cannot touch them makes them more disobedient and more disruptive. I know because I went to a public school. How should a teacher deal with students who are disobedient and disruptive? They can't. The only thing they can do is take them to the office, and they can only send them home, call the parents, or send them to detention. And what a punishment that is. In detention, you get plenty of time to do whatever you want (for the most part). I use to joke that if I ever got behind in class, I would do something that would get me ISD (in school detention) and catch up. And while I was there, and when I got done with everything, I would try to solve world hunger. No wonder I had friends who were in ISD more than in class. That is not the goal of punishment.
When liberalism entered into our schools, they actually believed that they would solve many of our worldly, societal problems. The fact is that they have created more. By taking power out of the hands of teachers and administrators, and now parents, we have only encouraged disobedience in our schools. Is it not by chance that there are more bullies, school shootings, violence, in our schools now than when teachers could spank students? I don't think so. Do we really think that detention and medal detectors are going to put an end to such things? I doubt it.
It is no wonder youth ministers, pastors, mentors, etc. have such a hard time with students. They have been raised in a society where there is no punishment for their actions. Why do what your told if their are no consequences? I know I wouldn't have. This is a fundamental problem with liberalism; it's not practical and it doesn't work.
These are just a few reasons why I am against this bill and support spanking. But I believe that there are some exhortations that are needed when this subject is brought up.
As parents, if you say, "when I get home your going to get spanked for this," or "do it again and your going to get spanked," etc., then you must fulfill your promise. To be inconsistent only encourages the child to continue in their actions because they become convinced that their parents won't do anything. How many times have you heard someone say, "it doesn't matter, their not going to do anything about it." This is not good.
When you say your going to spank, then follow through with it. Also, if one action is deserving of spanking, it is always deserves a spanking.
Obviously, not everything that a child does is worth a spanking. At times giving them a time-out, or grounding them, or sending them to the corner may be good. However, at the same time, do not be afraid to spank whenever the child deserves it.
I do not want to sound like one that thinks that we should be our children. I don't think that at all. I do believe that we should discipline our children, and that the parents are to be in control. I get sick and tired of seeing teenagers talking back to their parents or openly disobey their parents. This is not good. If the child is disobedient to the parents, how do you think they'll act to our laws? Probably with the same attitude.
Well, this is just a little bit of my opinion on the subject. One could obviously say more, but I think this gets my point across. I hate to think that by the time I have children, I may be breaking the law when I spank them. It is a sad day whenever our society throws discipline out the window.
Watch this video, and see how they treats the issue of spanking and the Bible. These "experts" know nothing of the Bible nor how to interpret it. A basic study of Biblical hermeneutics would be beneficial for these people.